No one ever said breakups are easy. It hurts to feel unwanted and alone after spending so much time with that special someone. If you had to catch a cheater, it can feel even worse. You might feel rejected and inadequate, even if you’re the one initiating the breakup. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to make ending your relationship a little easier.
Mentally Prepare Yourself
One of the worst things about breakups is that they can seemingly come out of nowhere. If you mentally prepare yourself for the inevitable, you’ll have a better time handling this major change in your life. Don’t just go through the motions and pretend that everything’s okay. Try to work things out with your partner by bringing up your concerns, and if you need to, start gradually withdrawing from them.
Treat Your Partner With Respect
Your soon-to-be ex may have been a scumbag. Or you may have found out the hard way that you had to catch a cheater. No matter what, though, you shouldn’t let yourself stoop to their level. Rise above by treating them with basic human decency when you break up with them. You don’t have to be nice to them, but you should tell them, in person if possible, that the relationship is over. Don’t be petty and hold onto their stuff, either – you’ll feel better once you get it out of your house and give it back.
Go No Contact
Going no contact is different from ghosting. I’d never suggest that you ghost someone, unless you need a way out of an abusive relationship. Ghosting causes unresolved feelings on both sides that can make it more difficult to move on. On the other hand, once you both know that the relationship is over, going no contact gives you time to heal. You won’t keep reopening fresh wounds by talking to each other, so you can focus on other things in your life. And maybe down the road, you two can reconnect as friends.
There’s nothing pleasant about ending a relationship, but hopefully my tips can make it a little less painful. Once it’s all over, you can walk away from the breakup with a guilty-free conscious because you did the right thing. The next step is moving on and finding happiness again.