Once you’ve been in a relationship long enough, you and your partner start to feel more like a unit instead of two separate people. And that’s how it should be. While you both have your own friends and interests, you function as a team. What do you do once that relationship ends? Especially if it was due to signs of infidelity? I know it’s scary to be out on your own again, but you can do it! Here are a few ways you can overcome the grief of a breakup and move on.
Remember The Good Times
Don’t paint your entire relationship as a giant loss. You’ll feel nothing but bitterness and resentment. Instead, try to remind yourself that even though the relationship is over, you did have good times together with your ex. You can acknowledge that it wasn’t a healthy relationship, or that there were signs of infidelity, without ignoring the happy memories.
Stay Off Social Media
This is your time to focus on you – not other people. If you haven’t already, defriend or block your ex. Looking at their social media profiles isn’t going to help you get over them any faster. Actually, in some cases, it’s just best to stay off social entirely. Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat make it too easy to compare yourself to people who are selectively sharing their happiest memories and activities on their profiles.
Pay Attention To What You’re Feeling
I think we can all agree that breakups aren’t easy. They leave us feeling a whole cornucopia of emotions: anger, sadness, loneliness, and maybe even some relief. Plus, if you saw signs of infidelity in your ex, you probably feel betrayed. You need to give yourself time to examine and process your grief. It’s a confusing time, but once you get everything out of your system, you’ll be able to think clearly again. I personally love journaling whenever I’m trying to make sense of my feelings.
Set Some Goals
Getting over a breakup is a process, and it can be a long one. Because there are different stages, though, you should think about how much time you’ll give to each one. For example, when the pain is still fresh, you might want to have a day or two where you can hole yourself up in your bedroom and eat ice cream all day. That’s totally fine – it only becomes a problem when you’re unwilling to get past this stage and refuse to leave the house. Give yourself the time you need to grieve and then get back into the swing of things.
Did any of these tips help you get through a breakup? If so, please reach out to me and let me know!